Yeah…
I feel everyone is more important than I am. Everyone.
Thank you
Nahhhh bish you are more important than you will ever know
It took me so long to accept this, don’t take as long as I did.
Cheers, mate…
I’m 35… if it’s not something I’ve “realized” yet, I doubt I ever will
Daily.
Arthur my man!
NICE SIDEBURNS
THANK YOU, GO AWAY
Nah
oh okay. thanks for answering.
No. I matter a lot to some people who matter a lot to me. I don’t need to be the most important person to anyone (other than my partner and our kitties; even then, she has lots of people who are more important in different ways, like her mom and brothers and her best friend since they were kids).
Cherish the people who matter to you. This feels like some real influencer-pilled shit.
my wife isn’t the hottest woman on the planet to me and im not the hottest guy to her. My brother is real popular and maybe the favorite person of a bunch of folks. I doubt im the top for anything with anyone but you know. Thats fine. I don’t need to be anything more than I am.
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Well, that’s a huge strike-against.
Let me rephrase that. That kid-pidgin will earn heckling, and one’s reaction to that heckling - admit you’re older than 12 and promise to stop, vs really any other response - will determine whether we can be friends. It’s such a low bar.
Honestly, what’s even ur deal
caring about someone’s way of texting over the contents of their personality is wayyy worse and such a red flag.
I’m my dog’s favorite person, and that’s enough.
Yeah, but I have BPD, and know FPs are dangerous (still want one tho)
Floating points?
Favorite Pixels
French poodles?
the “floater friend”
why do you need to be someone’s favourite person? if you make it to anyone’s top 10, that’s pretty cool already
I mean, I would prefer to be my partner’s favorite person, but I’m sure there are like 50 reasons that reveals I’m broken inside somehow. Or maybe it was that last part I added.
right, partners, I was just referring to friends
Nope. In the words of Nina Simone. I go where people love me and I stay there cuz they love me.
Are you your own favorite person? If not, why not? What qualities about yourself make you feel like you’re not worthy of being the person you enjoy spending the most time with? If you are your own favorite person, why does it matter if someone else feels like they’d rather spend time with you over anyone else? I feel if you enjoy your own company when you’re completely alone then the relationships you develop with others become more genuine, because you actually enjoy spending time with those people, rather than just being desperate to not be alone with yourself.
Because I’ve been very isolated and alone all my life, including home schooling, when I’m alone there’s this emptiness inside of me that never gets filled. I get so anxious when I’m alone and have slowly lost the ability to do things to distract myself from it.
Theres a difference between being lonely and alone, I used to be good at being alone but I’ve never been able to cope with being lonely. Life seems pointless without others in it.
Isolation is painful, I know that very well. There is a vast difference between having no one in your life and feeling incapable of being ok without company. People need community, we are social beings. The best advice I have for seeking friendship is to join groups you have affinity with. If you’re particularly interested in politics, art, music, movies, gardening, anime, 3D printing, TTRPGs, whatever it is you love spending time doing, find people in your area who get together to do those things and try to join them.
If, on the other hand, you have friends and community but still can’t stand the time you spend alone, address what about being by yourself creates that anxiety? What are you getting from constant company that you don’t have alone?
Thabk you for the kind words and taking time to respond.
I’ve put a lot of effort into making friends over the last 11 years, I had a good community and a hobby that got me out and about with people all the time, unfortunately during the pandemic I moved to one of the most socially isolating countries there is, it’s taken me 4 and a half years to make new friends but I have a bunch of friends again, but it just doesn’t seem like it’s enough, it never is. Even back home, with all I had going for me, I spent most of my time alone and felt this way.
The only thing I can think of is that they distract me from the emptiness, when they’re there, the emptiness is subdued for a while.
I’ve been doing tons of introspection on why I feel this way and I don’t know. I have BPD, which makes things difficult. I know that on a Saturday morning, if I haven’t got plans with someone, I wake up feeling like there’s no point in even waking up, my existence serves no purpose besides being there for my mom. I’ve lost interest in my hobbies because of a lifetime of never being able to afford what I need to complete anything, and anxiety and fear of failure has creeped into everything. I don’t even play games anymore unless it’s with someone.
Being alone feels terrifying and so so empty.
But the more you interact with them, the more it’s revealed that people are mostly intolerable and disappointing. So, alone has it’s own merits.
Now that I think about it, I’m not sure who IS my favorite person (?) Is there such a person at all? Do I need to rank them? I like a lot of people but kind of shy away from the ranking contest
Fair, I tend to think in terms of affinity rather than ranking, i have high affinity with some people and less with others. it’s not about rank, it’s about… Vibes? I guess? There’s probably a better word but codes it what comes to mind.
I know you don’t actually want people to individually answer. But for me, I’m always making mistakes, never working hard enough, always doing the wrong thing, etc. I try but never hard enough. I fail every day at the things I try to do and get everything wrong all the time…most of it in terms of social interaction.
I’m my cats’ favorite person, but that’s only because they are indoor cats and I’m the only human in the house.
I have others in the house, but I feed her so she loves me the most. Conditional love works when the condition is easy to fulfill ❤️
If you’re not 7 people’s favorite person by 11am, you just aren’t putting in the work.
This guy networks.
His links are in.
