• can@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    While not a quick and easy process, programming can be alterred. DBT helps.

    • BoobaAwooga@lemmynsfw.com
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      4 days ago

      Yuuup, this person is doing the classic cognitive distortion called catastrophizing. It’s very worth it to work on overcoming any cognitive distortions you have

    • Horrible_Goblin@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      This doesn’t have enough upvotes imo. Contingency hell can be dealt with. (mind you, noting wrong with having a contingency plan or two, but there’s a point where it goes from a healthy survival mechanism to a debilitating maladaptive coping mechanism)

      I’m still in contingency plan hell, but I’ve managed to deal with it in some parts of my life and that feeling of just coming out of a situation that used to make you tense AF and then realizing you were not even considering to worry about it is the best feeling even. This was something I never expected to be possible.

      And honestly, I have been stressing out about the other bits of my life that are still contingency hell, kinda thinking I might never get rid of them, just how I felt about the things I actually did deal with…

      Guess I came here to remind some internet rando’s that it is in fact possible; ended up reminding myself :')