Honestly this is really hard to pity all. This reads like white woman goes to new country with new culture and new language and hates everything she doesn’t understand. Such a ridiculous warrants a response otherwise others may take you seriously.

Half of your wife’s “horror” story is her not being used to Chinese culture or speaking any Chinese. People staring and taking photos? This happens in any country where white people aren’t typically present. They’re curious not rude.

Since she can’t speak Chinese it’s a huge assumption for you two to assume they were calling her a fat tan farmer? How would you even come up with that if you can’t understand it. Chinese people do comment on tall or big westerns but not in a rude manner. Again, because they may not have seen someone like your wife before and are curious.

She’s upset about a city having nice and bad parts? Walk down any big city in America. China modernized very recently. She’s upset about people taking photos of the pretty sky? She’s upset about a culture that doesn’t wait in lines?

Idk if it’s worth commenting on learning how other Americans run gyms as “spying.” What an overreaction.

And now your wife is walking around spreading how bad China is along with you. This is just sad.

Wait until you get to Japan and find many places won’t welcome white people, people will move away from you on the subway, most don’t speak English, there are also bad parts.