• syreus@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Literally anyone you see regularly see. Make light eye contact and smile. After a couple times seeing the same person just try something simple:

    " I see you here often. Do you know ______?"

    A: Yes/ “Ya they have been coming here since _____. I started back in ________.”

    B: No/ “Oh, well I’m ________ it’s a pleasure to meet you.”

    You are planting seeds of discourse. It makes you more approachable.

    I have engaged you here in good faith so I’d appreciate the same in return.

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      7 days ago

      You’re telling me to be annoying or a creep. Talking to someone unsolicited isn’t generally accepted (this is something I learned from some female friends who say they don’t want anyone talking to them at the gym, and from myself because the only people that talk to me in random situations are crazy or asking for money).

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        6 days ago

        Being sociable ≠ Being annoying/creepy

        That’s all about intent. You gauge a response using body language. My gym has a racquetball court. I get asked to play all the time by random people. Be friendly and people will come to you. I had a problem with facial expressions growing up and I worked on mirroring. I mostly do it without thinking these days but it didn’t start that way.

        You can meet people at the gym. General rule is don’t be disruptive.