Sturgist@lemmy.catoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•People in their 40s and 50s with no children, how does it feel?
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23 days agoI’m 38, wife is 40, absolutely heartbreaking. We’ve been trying for 5 years, went to the NHS for IVF, but because of the pandemic we “aged out” of multiple rounds. The one go we had didn’t result in pregnancy, and if we can’t conceive with as many rounds as we can afford private were planning to adopt. Which is pretty difficult in the UK actually.
Yeah, over in the UK(depending on what country) if you’re under 40 you get 2-4(?) rounds on the NHS. But due to the pandemic, and us moving to Scotland from London, my wife turned 40 before we were able to be seen. Our one round had two embryos, one botched implant because the clinic was adamant that they implant unfrozen, despite the hormones from up/down regulation for egg retrieval causing such massive inflammation for my wife that it took an hour and a half to implant(should be less than 10 minutes.) The second embryo failed before it could be implanted. So now we’re going for private in Athens. Even with last minute flights, last minute accommodation and transport costs while we’re there, it’ll be £3000-£4000 cheaper than going private here in Scotland.
And even then we’re looking at remortgaging our house to afford it. We’re by no means poor. What was it my wife called us…DINKs? Dual Income, No Kids. And we own the house we live in outright thanks to her parents buying at the right time, and her inheriting early enough to avoid any excess taxes. But we have basically no disposable income. In one hand, out the other.
Anyway, I hope for all the best with you two. It’s an absolute motherfucker. If you’ll pardon my french…