Then they briefly acknowledge you before returning to whatever uninteresting topic they were already discussing and tighten the circle so that you could not join in even if you wanted to…
You look around the room and everyone is in tight circles, making mostly small talk, with a few people in each circle dominating the conversations. At best, all you can do is stand outside a circle, essentially eavesdropping, but that’s creepy.
So you just wander the room admiring the art and architecture, look out the windows, etc., before either finding a way to leave or finding a quiet corner and pulling out your phone.
Then they briefly acknowledge you before returning to whatever uninteresting topic they were already discussing
The fact that you call their topic uninteresting means you don’t care about others but expect them to care about you. That is you being self centered. You expect others to listen to your interests without first listening to theirs.
That means taking a real interest in their topic even if it’s something stupid like sports. If you don’t know enough to contribute the conversation that means you are learning something new- which is a good thing.
And just because you listened to them doesn’t mean they immediately owe you to listen to you.
It’s pretty unfriendly not to leave an opening for others to wander in and join the conversation at a party. I’ve been standing around wondering why I’m there for sure though. Something to keep in mind as you’re enthusiastically chatting yourself at some point in the future. 😆
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Then they briefly acknowledge you before returning to whatever uninteresting topic they were already discussing and tighten the circle so that you could not join in even if you wanted to…
You look around the room and everyone is in tight circles, making mostly small talk, with a few people in each circle dominating the conversations. At best, all you can do is stand outside a circle, essentially eavesdropping, but that’s creepy.
So you just wander the room admiring the art and architecture, look out the windows, etc., before either finding a way to leave or finding a quiet corner and pulling out your phone.
The fact that you call their topic uninteresting means you don’t care about others but expect them to care about you. That is you being self centered. You expect others to listen to your interests without first listening to theirs.
That means taking a real interest in their topic even if it’s something stupid like sports. If you don’t know enough to contribute the conversation that means you are learning something new- which is a good thing.
And just because you listened to them doesn’t mean they immediately owe you to listen to you.
read the room dude.
I don’t care about what kids think about me. I’m trying to help.
Being different is fine. The post above mine was embracing being a narcissist. It’s a variation of this attitude:
https://xkcd.com/610/
On the subway I’m more Homer
Basically this
It’s pretty unfriendly not to leave an opening for others to wander in and join the conversation at a party. I’ve been standing around wondering why I’m there for sure though. Something to keep in mind as you’re enthusiastically chatting yourself at some point in the future. 😆