The original poster in the screenshot is “confessions of a diabetic,” and based on her avatar I’m taking an educated guess that her illness is not lifestyle-caused. That’s what makes your comment tone-deaf: a person with an incurable disease makes a statement, that other people with incurable diseases resonated with, and you start going off about lifestyle changes like it’s contributing to the conversation and not just making chronically ill people feel bad. Why bad? Because it’s a) a reminder of all the times they tried in vain to fix their condition with lifestyle changes, b) overlooks that most chronically ill people do actively engage in (often extreme) lifestyle adjustments to help manage symptoms, and c) reinforces the idea that if chronically ill people just tried harder they could be cured).
Putting “a lot” in front of your statement doesn’t negate that it’s out of context, and thus insensitive and not contributing to the discussion. It’s a case of “you’re not a member of the group of people that are commiserating here, so maybe this conversation isn’t for you to participate in.”
Does “a lot” mean “all” in your land? Or have you just been sitting on all that waiting for a chance to unload it on someone, RFK Jr zinger included?
The original poster in the screenshot is “confessions of a diabetic,” and based on her avatar I’m taking an educated guess that her illness is not lifestyle-caused. That’s what makes your comment tone-deaf: a person with an incurable disease makes a statement, that other people with incurable diseases resonated with, and you start going off about lifestyle changes like it’s contributing to the conversation and not just making chronically ill people feel bad. Why bad? Because it’s a) a reminder of all the times they tried in vain to fix their condition with lifestyle changes, b) overlooks that most chronically ill people do actively engage in (often extreme) lifestyle adjustments to help manage symptoms, and c) reinforces the idea that if chronically ill people just tried harder they could be cured).
Putting “a lot” in front of your statement doesn’t negate that it’s out of context, and thus insensitive and not contributing to the discussion. It’s a case of “you’re not a member of the group of people that are commiserating here, so maybe this conversation isn’t for you to participate in.”